Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Hero

If you have been following me on social media - or recently from this blog, you know that I have an amazing husband, Darren. AKA: Mr. Worldwide. Darren has been fighting and winning brain cancer since 2011. At that time, did you know that he was given only 18 months to live?  Crazy right?

Darren's incredible attitude and his mentality about his diagnosis has been unreal. 
In his words, "After years of battling, I still don't accept my long term prognosis and I never will. I live every day of my life without regret and I treat every day like it's the best day of my life. I have learned that in life, you don't have to accept the hand you're dealt. Whether it's your health, your career or relationships, you are the one that's in control of the outcome. If you complain about your health - fix it. If you coplain about your job - fix it. If you complain about being wronged in your life or your career - it's on YOU to fix it. You are the only one in charge of how your life turns out. Nobody else. You have one life to live and it's up to you how you want to live it".

And, let me tell you - Darren Delvaux lives his life to his words every single day. 

He does go in for MRI's every 3 months and is proactive in caring for his health, his brain cancer, and well being. And we have been lucky - and defeated odds - to have his MRI's stay stable and safe all this time. 

Unfortunately, Darren started to have symptoms and not feeling himself. So, when we went in for his latest MRI, we were more concerned (if that's possible....no matter how you feel, or are feeling, it is scary and difficult to wait on results! #Scanxiety is real!).  And much to our knowing, we didn’t get the best of news from Darrens recent MRI results. We honestly weren’t shocked because of the way he’s been feeling, but we we’re still in shock if that makes any sense at all. 

We have a call into his surgeon at MD Anderson to get on the schedule. So we’ll keep you all posted when we figure out the timing of everything. Thank you so much for all the love and prayers. Btw, we’ll be giving the majority of the updates on my Instagram @jendelvaux 

Your friend & coach,

Jen Delvaux

www.jendelvaux.com

Monday, February 18, 2019

30 healthy habits every girl should have


It's a Monday...and a cold one at that, here in Michigan. BUT the sun is shining - so I'll take it!  I love Mondays, they are truly a FRESH day. A new chance. A new opportunity. It's like the world is at your fingertips - and you are able to create an amazing day -- let alone week! -- absolutely amazing. What a beautiful feeling, right?

I didn't always feel this way. I used to dread the Monday alarm. The sadness would start to creep in on Sunday evening, and by the time I was crawling into bed on Sunday evening, I was already angry, sad, depressed, and NOT wanting tomorrow to start. You with me?

BUT, I started to change my outlook and make it ALL positive. Like, a real positive outlook. How did I manage that? I mean, seriously, it's not something that happens over night (for me, at least).  Well, I have my amazing husband, Darren, to thank for that. As you may know, he is battling brain cancer. He was given only 18 months to live well over 9 years ago. He took his diagnosis and made his OWN. And now, he lives every single day like it's the best day ever. And positivity like his is contagious!!!  I, too, realized that life is beautiful. It's a wonderful opportunity to make a difference in your own life as well as others. And what an awesome feeling that is! So, I wake up every morning, without fail, and say to myself, "Something wonderful is going to happen today".  And, guess what? It always does. Sometimes it is something HUGE and obvious and other days it may be something so small (and almost insignificant)...but once you realize that something good did happen - even the insignificant things became HUGE and wonderful. 

Here are 30 more healthy habits that every girl, since this is my #girlieboss blog, should have. They should help you jump start your day and claim your life!  For more tips/tricks, message me today! I have online groups for positivity, support, and empowerment that I'd love to plug you into! :) Learn about them HERE.

30 Healthy Habits every Girl Should Have:
1. START FRESH every single day!πŸ‘ŠπŸ»
2. Understand that exercise doesn't have to be a big time commitment.πŸ‹πŸΌ
3. Cut back on (evil) sugar.😿
4. Use a RETINOL if you're starting to get wrinkles.πŸ™„

5. NEVER grocery shop on an empty stomach.πŸ™…πŸ»

6. STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP.πŸ™ŒπŸ»
7. NEVER let Google diagnose you.😷
8. Learn to take constructive criticism.πŸ‘ŒπŸ»
9. Count to 10 when angry.😑
10. Eat WHOLE FOODS as much as possible🍏
11. Don't skip your yearly check up!🌑
12. Don't overdo the booze.🍸
13. Don't snack if you're not hungry.πŸͺ
14. Use SPF, and wear a hat in the sun.☀️
15. Water is your best friend. Drink up!πŸ’§
16. Safe sex, ALWAYSπŸ’‘
17. Make your home a place you want to be.🏠
18. Drop loose change in the same jar everyday.πŸ’°
19. Stand up for yourself.πŸ’ƒπŸΌ
20. Avoid tanning beds like the plague.🚫
21. Take medication seriouslyπŸ’Š
22. Listen to your body.πŸ‘‚πŸ»
23. Don't skimp on sleep.πŸ’€
24. Don't do drugs...period. End of story.
25. Do mental health checks.πŸ’†πŸ»
26. Read labels on everything. πŸ‘€
27. Always wear a seatbelt, especially in a taxi.πŸš•
28. Check your bank account and credit card balance regularly.πŸͺ
29. LOVE yourself!!! ❤️
30. BELIEVE in YOU!! You CAN!πŸ‘ŠπŸ»


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Your friend and coach,

Jen Delvaux

Thursday, February 14, 2019

Just in time for ❤️ day: Relationship talk!




Transform your relationship with a little bit of love!!❤️

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As most of you already know, Darren was diagnosed with brain cancer in 2009. It's been a crazy roller coaster of ups and downs, but we have always managed to keep our heads held high!! And I have to thank my incredible husband for that. The diagnosis that he was given would send a lot of people into a depression & possibly even give up... But not Darren! He truly has a gift like no other. I couldn't be more proud!! And because of his incredible attitude, it thankfully helped me to think think and feel the same way!!!  We have come a long way in our marriage - from cancer diagnosis, to raising two kids, loss of parents, and so much more. Marriage is not just about the good times - it is working and growing thru the difficult times.  

Valentines Day. Do you celebrate this with your partner? Or, is every day Valentine's Day for you!? Or...are you struggling with finding a happier relationship with your loved on
Listen.  Marriage and relationships are hard work. It takes effort, patience, LOVE, and kindness. In this podcast - which is perfect for Valentine's Day as well as any day you need a reminder, we share our tips/tricks in keeping our marriage alive and happy.  We firmly believe that our struggles and difficult times have not only made our fun times MORE fun but strengthened us so our dark times are not as dark. 

Sure, we have our times and our difficulties but we also have learned and always remember the AMAZING times, too.  Sometimes it can be tough to remember the positive traits and aspects but remember why you fell in love in the first place.  And a few other tips:

1. Take good care of yourself! (need help? Check my virtual gym out!)
2. Let go of perfectionism, it doesn't exist 
3. Flirt with your partner 
4. Let go of the fantasy 
5. friendship is as important as love 
6. Never under estimate a mid day text 
7. Schedule time away from each other 
8. Consider a day date 
9. Have a growth mindset 
10. Show appreciation

What would you add? Listen HERE to hear how we are able to remember these tips (including share a few more)! And, as always, we would love to hear your thoughts! Please don't hesitate to shoot a message!
Your friend & coach,

Jen Delvaux

www.jendelvaux.com

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

White Chicken Quinoa CHILI!

Anyone else struggling to stay warm in this crazy winter weather!? Here in Michigan, we survived the Polar Vortex but are now dealing with another round of crazy snow storms...and, the kiddos are on their 9,000,000th day off of school.  Okay, it's their 12th, but it feeeels like the 9,000,000th.  

When you are wanting to stay warm, but also stay on track -- because maybe some of your wine consumption has gone up a bit due to those above mentioned snow days -- this chicken chili is not only extremely satisfying and delicious but it packs a protein punch and is super easy to make!  So, grab your wine and make this for dinner tonight!

This is a delicious different type of chili:
WHITE CHICKEN QUINOA CHILI! 

Ingredients:
- 1 lb fully cooked boneless and skinless chicken breast. 
- 2 tbs cilantro.
- 3 cloves of garlic
- 2 jalapeΓ±o peppers (no seeds!).
- 1 medium onion.
- 1/2 tsp oregano.
- 1 (15 oz) jar great northern beans.
- 1/2 cup quinoa (uncooked)
-1 1 tsp cumin
- 3 cups chicken broth
-Cook on stove top or crock pot until Quinoa is fully cooked (softened).
Before serving; optional but delicious πŸ˜‰- Top with salsa verde - garnish with cubed avocado!

Enjoy!

Let me know if you would add/tweak anything to this recipe -- or if you tried it! Would love to know your thoughts! And, if you are interested in more healthy recipes, fitness tips/workout ideas, and more - join my FREE online virtual gym! Request to join HERE!

Your friend & coach,

Jen Delvaux

www.jendelvaux.com


Monday, February 11, 2019

ADHD & my daughter: All you need to know!


If you could see what I see when I look at you,
You'd definitely love you, too.
You would hold your head up high,
For you possess beauty that no one can deny.

If you could see what I see when I look at you,
There's no way you'd be so down and blue.
You wouldn't be able to contain your smiles,
For your charm goes on for miles and miles.

If you could see what I see when I look at you,
You'd know there's nothing you can't do.
You'd do things without fear you'll fail,
For you've got many talents yet to unveil.

Please try to see what I see when I look at you.
You will feel refreshed and new.
All the anger, shame, and insecurities will just go.
I promise BABY GIRL, you are too good to ever hang your head low.
-SELENA ODOM



Know someone who has ADHD? πŸ™‹
Trust me, it can be tough figuring out how to deal! 
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As many of you know, I have a daughter (now in college...crazy how time flies!!)! Maddie is absolutely amazing and we have been thru a lot.  I mean, A LOT.  I've always been open about our journey and our struggles - along with our triumphs and successes! - but it is has been a JOURNEY.  With everything we have been thru, I learned more and more about how Maddie's ADHD has influenced her and her decisions.  When we received the official diagnosis - it was almost like a sigh of relief - to know that her decisions and actions came from how she processes/thinks about things.  Once we had that diagnosis, we were able to really STUDY and LEARN about how her brain works and how we can work thru things.  The diagnosis gave us direction and a plan on how to work together.  

Although we always knew she had ADHD, once we made the decision to go to the Amen clinic (more in my podcast), and receive an intense, consice, and clear diagnosis - it was then that we discovered that we had the tools and ability to help Maddie best. Dr. Amen and his clinic helped make it clear that we as parents needed to learn how to invest our time with her in the best and healthiest way possible. 
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A few simple tips to keep in mind as you work thru your ADHD or someone you know with ADHD:

πŸ’‘ It ain't easy! Be kind to yourself and try not to compare to other parents or kids.
πŸ’‘ It's not their fault. Understand there is a real, physical difference in their brain activity.
πŸ’‘Stay calm. Don't fight back, don't engage in heightened situations.
πŸ’‘They thrive on structure.
πŸ’‘Love on them, and catch your kid throughout the day in the GOOD!
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Check out this podcast for full details on what life is like for our family and how to make the very best of it!!  And don't forget to connect with me on Facebook for #girlieboss fun, health/fitness, LIVING with cancer and so much more!


Your friend & coach,

Jen Delvaux

www.jendelvaux

Wednesday, February 6, 2019

Ladies, let's have a real talk about {BODY IMAGE}



Isn't it amazing how, seconds apart, the same person can look so different with just a different angle?!  

I am a mom. I have given birth to 2 beautiful kids and I would not change my story for ANYTHING.  Having kids changes our bodies, right moms?  

Maybe you are struggling to be a mom. Maybe you have had a weight loss journey or fitness story of your own.  Or maybe your body has just shifted and changed as you have aged.  Plain and simple, we all have a story. Our bodies carry our own beautiful, very personal, and unique story. And each story is AMAZING - because it is YOURS. We need to stop being our own worse critics and start being our own cheerleader!

While the media likes to focus on all of the negatives, or angle/airbrush/perfect others to show the best side only.....I have learned to reframe my thoughts of my body and  it has only made me better! πŸ’ƒSSS

I used to hate that my belly button no longer seems to be lifted and, instead, has a frowny face. But, guess what? I have come to embrace the fact that my frowny face belly button tells a story about motherhood. πŸ‘ͺ
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So stop waiting for perfection (it doesn’t exist) and comparing yourself to other people’s highlight reel!! You never know which angle is being used! And START to love yourself right now, exactly where you are. 


So, my friend, if you are kicking yourself for all the ways that you fall short of the girl in the magazine, or that picture perfect person you see online....do yourself a favor and turn that frown upside down and focus on being GRATEFUL for the story your body can tell!! 
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And seriously who has time for perfection?? Life is too short... plus we all need a little wine & chocolate πŸ·. Right?? 

You with me? Ready to shift your mindset? Need help in doing so? Message me today and let's get that girlieboss mentally rocking in your life! I have a virtual gym that I'd love to plug you into - it is an empowering circle of women, encouraging, supporting, and cheering us on - in all of our unique and beautiful ways!


Your friend & coach,

Jen Delvaux

www.jendelvaux.com



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Monday, February 4, 2019

B I N G E E A T I N G

B I N G E 
E A T I N G

Are you a binge eater? Have you caught yourself licking the bottom of a popcorn bag (or insert your favorite food(s) of choice) and not even remember eating the entire bag?  Popcorn is my kryptonite and if it is in my house - I have low control over not inhaling the entire bag.  {In one sitting.}

So many of us have been there πŸ™‹ and I know that it can be a tough cycle to break! But, let me tell you friends, there is FREEDOM in feeling satisfied and in control; it's not about deprivation!! πŸ™…
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For me, popcorn has always been that "thing". I literally can't keep the stuff in my house - even the "healthier" versions of popcorn. I seriously can't stop and will literally eat the entire bag! Truthfully, it is one of those foods that I mindlessly will keep eating and my body won't stop from reaching for handfuls of the delicious popped kernels until it's all gone!  Do you have a food where you seem to have no control over? Or is it certain times of the day or month or year where your control with food is non-existant? 

Listen.  Even if it's a healthy food, too much of anything can set us back - because it's not just about calories, but proper nutrition is about fueling your body with a wide variety of nutrients.  Your body will run more efficient when it is fueled properly and has the needed items to allow it to function properly!!!  From sleeping poorly or struggling to lose those last stubborn 5 lbs all the way to hair/nail growth and skin clarity -- nutrition plays a HUGE role in health/fitness! And how you fuel your body will help not just with all of those things but also keep you healthy, perform effectively, and fight a variety of diseases! πŸ†πŸ πŸ“
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In our latest podcast episode, Darren and I discuss ways to first of all identify binge eating disorder and who is at the highest risk, followed by ways to manage and form a healthier relationship with food.
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I'd be lying if I said it was easy, but it IS possible my friends!! 

Here are some things that have helped me:

Stay hydrated πŸ’§
Eat adequate amounts of fiber πŸŽ
Identify your "kryptonites" and then clean house! πŸ 
Don't be afraid to seek help and get accountability - we ALL need it in some way!! πŸ‘­

A journey to better health is all about trial, error, and consistency, NOT perfection! Give yourself grace, know that it's a process, and watch your self-control and confidence grow!!


For more on BINGE eating - please listen to our podcast and let us know your thoughts below!
Your friend & coach,

Jen Delvaux 

P.S.
I am offering a FREE 2 day Beauty Guide & Flash Sale with all my FAVORITE health/fitness products and nutrition! Interested in checking it out? Request to join HERE and I'll plug you in once I officially open it up!